It wasn't very sunny today and Bella's hives had gone right down. As I had started her on the new allergy pet treats I wanted to make sure that it wasn't them that had brought out the hives. So I gave her another treat crushed in with her breakfast to check if she reacted. Hopefully, as it was very sunny she wouldn't be hot again and so if that was the issue they wouldn't flare-up today. Even though she was still itching throughout the day her hives didn't come up, so I am going to keep her on the allergy treats to see if they help. It can take 2-4 weeks for them to kick in but I will persevere with them as I will do anything to see her not be in discomfort and constantly scratching at herself.
Still, no sign of Kirsty by 2:30pm so me and Layla nipped to Tesco and then headed down to Mum to make Sunday Dinner. Even though I was invited down for Sunday dinner I ended up buying everything and making it (apart from chopping some cabbage and boiling a kettle for the stuffing). not really my idea of a relaxing dinner invite but hey ho. It was really though nice, if I say so myself.
Now I don't know if it's because of all the posts that I see in The Virtual Tavern that this winds me up or it just would anyway, but... today is Fathers Day, and there was lots of post wishing dad happy fathers day etc. But then women started posting "Happy Fathers Day to all the mum out there doing both roles" etc and it really winds me up. THAT'S what Mothers day is for, so you get the recognition for being a great mum, you don't have to hijack the men's day too! In the end I had to post about it so they would get over themselves and stop posting about it. I get that there are mum doing the roles of both parents but they arent th Father they are th mother doing the fathers role. It's not "Happy everyone doinfg the role of a fathers day" it's Happy Father Day, so unless you donated the sperm and then had a sex change and gave birth to the baby, then you you shouldn't expect to have both the Mothers Day and the Fathers Day, but that's just my opinion. It's almost always the women that kick up about it, men don't try to hijack mothers day saying, "She;s not around so I want flowers on Mothers Day" FFS.
7:30pm Kirsty texted to ask where we were and I said we were back at mine. She asked if she could come back which I replied of course. This is typical Kirsty, she can fly off the rails or do something she should apologise for and instead of facing it and saying sorry, she just stays away for a bit and then starts a conversation as if nothing has happened. I decided I wasn't going to say anything tonight and would wait until tomorrow. Normally I would pussy foot around her and just be glad she isn't kicking off so say nothing to keep the peace. I've decided I'm not doing that anymore because it's almost saying that what she does is acceptable and by ignoring it and going back to normal she thinks that's the best way to deal with it in the future. I can't just carry on as if nothing happened when I've had words with someone, I need to address it in order to put it behind us. and move on. What she doesn't realise is it's much less awkward to just admit when you are wrong and apologise, then get over it. when you just ignore it there is always this uncomfortable period where you are waiting for an apology that doesn't arrive and then you get more wound up inside.
The conversation was strained for a while as I couldn't believe that even if she didn't apologise to me, she didn't think she owed her friend one for just abandoning her.
Anyway I thought I'd leave it until tomorrow as she will be expecting a row tonight, so I'm not giving her one. The really sad thing is, when Kirsty hasn't had a drink she is the loveliest, kindlest most considerate person you could meet and everyone says how lovely she is. When she's had a drink (and it doesn't have to be loads), something about her changes, her whole attitude even her eyes look different and then it's pot luck which version of her you get. You are then walking on egg shells hoping nothing you say triggers her to kick off.
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